I can do what I want. What truly startled me was the response I was hearing from other adults who also know the student in question.
Monday, April 16 Kellie Jo Holly Kristen read the post comments for Abuse Victims and Abusive Anger and asked "How do you prevent creating friendships based on a power-control dynamic and how do you escape the anger that fuels them?
Kristen is headed for success in her relationships because she is asking great questions. What is the Power-Control Dynamic? In an abusive relationship, the power-control dynamic is out of scale with other relationship dynamics trust and intimacy are the other two, according to Millar and Rogers.
This makes sense to me because if there is a struggle for power, then trust and intimacy are unattainable.
The power-control dynamic takes a dominant role in an abusive relationship. The abuser overtly attempts to control and assert their perceived power entitlement by any means necessary physical, mental and emotional abuse are tools to accomplish their goal.
However, the victim also seeks power and control. Because the victim feels forced into the abuser's definition of submission, Sexuality corruption and power dynamics in use of power and control is covert co-dependence. Healthy Power-Control Dynamic In a healthy relationship, you will also find elements of the power-control dynamic.
However, the healthy relationship is a balanced one. Healthy relationships include trust and intimacy. Trusting and feeling trusted by your partner allow both people to assert their strengths when it is the best interest of the "team". Intimacy allows each partner to know and appreciate their partner's strengths and weaknesses.
Trust and intimacy together allow power and control to balance out across the relationship in different situations, depending on who is best suited to take the lead at that time. The Abusive Power-Control Dynamic Doesn't Have to Control Your Anger Kristen noted in her comment that she lost a wonderful friend because she abused him similarly to how she was abused during her marriage.
The fact that Kristen recognizes that her behavior was inappropriate and wants to prevent it from reoccurring leads me to believe she is not the abuser we typically discuss on this blog.
Like Kristen, I also heard myself say things that I thought I'd never say. I witnessed myself act out angrily in embarrassing and hurtful ways during and after my marriage.
My abusive anger never once helped my marriage, and it holds the potential to ruin any healthy relationship I ever have. Let's just say that I learned how to be an abuser from an excellent teacher and could continue that pattern in my life if I chose to do so.
The problem was that I knew two ways to behave: I could abuse or submit. I did not have any other tools in my toolbox. It's like trying to build a house with only a screwdriver and an adjustable wrench. Both tools will work, but there are so many other tools that would make the job smoother!
With only abuse and codependency in my relationship toolbox, I am going to experience frustration and lots of anger!
Before I know it, I could abuse people horribly because I do not have the most effective relationship toolbox. I need to add tools to my toolbox in order to build the relationship of my dreams. Balancing Power-Control Dynamics In Relationships There is a reason people coming out of abusive relationships have trust and intimacy issues: In my abusive relationship, my ex used any intimacies I shared with him against me.
He told me to trust him be a good wife! Trust and intimacy are foreign to abusive relationships, so they are the dynamics previous abuse victims must reacquaint themselves with as soon as possible. Additionally, previous victims must address their anger stemming from the crazed power-control dynamic of the abusive relationship by addressing their anger directly and learning to use trust and intimacy as counter-balances.
To make matters more difficult, intrusive memories and thoughts related to the prior abuse can slow a survivor's ability to acquire the healthy behaviors we desire. It is difficult for me to imagine a glowing future with part of my mind mired in remembered abuse.
In the next few posts, I'll write about trust, intimacy, and relief from abusive anger in more depth. Until then, please share your thoughts in the comments section below.power dynamics among women who have had sexual experiences with women and men.
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